Actor Saanand Verma, who is part of the show Bhabiji Ghar Par Hain, says that getting married becomes more about responsibilities after a certain point. However, he adds that maintaining a romantic connection is crucial and should not be overlooked.
“I firmly believe that marriage is ultimately about responsibilities rather than just romance. Romance often fades over time, and what remains is the commitment to family, society, and responsibilities—especially towards children. Marriage comes with a host of responsibilities, and if one fails to fulfill them, it can lead to significant unhappiness. While I fully agree with this perspective, it’s equally important to keep the romance and magic alive in a marriage. Otherwise, there’s little point in being together. If there’s no romantic connection and it’s all about duties, what’s the point of getting married? It seems foolish to marry without romantic involvement. Both partners should make efforts to keep the romance alive,” he says.
He adds, “Human nature tends to take anything that is constantly available for granted. That’s where the real challenge lies—finding ways to keep the relationship interesting. It’s difficult but necessary. For example, people living near the Taj Mahal may not appreciate its beauty as much as tourists do because it’s always there. Similarly, constant physical presence in a marriage can lead to complacency. Very few couples—perhaps one in thousands—manage to maintain a happy marriage, often due to circumstances like physical distance or busy work lives, which prevent them from taking each other for granted. Over time, many couples focus more on their children and old age, neglecting their own happiness. The idea of a consistently happy marriage seems unrealistic to me. A healthy relationship requires space, trust, unconditional love, and respect. Partners should not be over-possessive or suspicious but rather accept each other as they are and genuinely celebrate each other’s happiness. Unfortunately, these qualities are rare, and I don’t idolize any marriage as perfect. Every marriage has its flaws, and the reality is often far from the idealized image we see.”
Talking about himself, he says, “The thought of commitment and marriage scares me because I believe it’s not humanly possible to stay committed to one person for life. It’s a concept I struggle with and don’t fully support.”
